Abortion help please

[unsure]

Hello All, Please could I have some help from you all.

I have PCOS and for years never concvieved a child. I have been with my current boyfriend for 3 years, we have just bought (well he has with £20,000 help from his family, payable back asap with interest) and I am living with him, we couldnt afford to lwithout each other.

I have 4 months left at university, and then due to start my dream job and career in nursing, we also have so many holiday plans and have disccussed maybe trying for a baby in 7 years time when we are settled and cab afford a bigger home (a one bedroom flat: small flat at that).

I also have £20,000 of personal debt I planned to narrow down when I start working, we had it all planned out. There is no way that my partner is ready or wants a child yet and I do not hold that against him.

I have fallen pregnant to the shock horror and miracle of life, but WHAT TERRIBLE TIMING!! Is it just me or can you see that? No money, I wouldnt get benefit as not employed, we need to pay back his family etc etc.

I would love to have a baby always will, I cannot stop crying because my heart says bugger the money and the house, we can get around all of that, but would we really want to??

My partner has gone into his shell, i KNOW HE IS BREAKING INSIDE, but what other option do we have, we love each other so very much, Iam split in my decision between being pratical and rationale to being broody I suppose.

I would love some of your comments on this, we are not the type of people who wish to claim off the goverment and want to be independant in our love and growing life together.

Has anyone had an abortion for similar reasons and can understand, I have nobody to turn too, this is really hard, I cannot work at the mo, just very hormonal and emtional, I did not think I could have a baby, but at least I know I can and maybe again in the future.

My happy life is with my partner and all we have planned, we would hate each other maybe if I was to decide to keep it, But I wouldnt expect him to go along with that, how could I this was never ever planned.

Please help, confused and lonely, be gentle,

[maz1987]

hey, i can understand your worries i was 17 when i found out i was pregnant with my first chid, all i felt at first was panic, and how did i get myself into this mess! i had always wanted children, but at the time i was living with my mum and had no job, what could i offer a child..... all i knew at the time was that i wanted him but i was so scared as i  was not in the position to support myself properly let alone a little baby. still i had him, he is now 3 going on 4. when he was born i got a little flat, it wasnt much but it was all that we need then, the support that i got of my family and friends was unbelievable, i worked hard and i now have a lovley little house and i am training to be a wedding planner. i also have a 7 month baby.
looking back the only regret that i have is how i could of ever considered having an abortion, at the time it may have been the most scariest point in my life and it may have seemed the best thing for everyone, but at the same time there is no price on a child, and i believe that no matter what situation you are in you will always find a way of making it work for your children if that is what you want

all i can say is that you need to put a lot of thought into it, dont rush anything, and talk to the people that are close to you and take all support  offered

best of luck xxxx

[donnaj]

I can completely understand where you are coming from. It must be so hard for you, but you have to consider it carefully. Abortion is such a big thing, especially to your emotional being. Then there is the possibility of this being your only chance to have a baby.

Can you not get any support from your family to help raise the baby? It is completely your choice and it would be better in your thoughts if someone made that choice for you, but unfortunetly it is only you and your partners choice.

I hope you make the right decision.