Dunno what to do !!

[Fox]

Hi all, I am 25 and have a beautiful girlfriend who I love very very much, she is 24 in October, and we have been together 2 and a half years. Picture the perfect couple....   =D

Now here is my prediciment, My gf is hell bent on having children, lots of em... she isnt getting broody yet but keeps asking about it and when we have em etc etc in a few yrs to come....

Now to be completley honest I flippin hate kids.....   babies are the worst, they dont interest me in the slightest, have held one once and couldnt wait to give it back.. 

What am going to do, ? 
She is aware that Im not keen...   

Advice please..

Ps. Splitting up is not an option we love each other very very much.
 
Cheers, Fox.

[maisie_mouse2007]

well hun if i was you i would just try and get used to the idea!!!

i am also a child loving beauty and from experience i can tell you that no-one or nothing could ever put me off having children. if you love this woman as much as you say you do then give it some serious thought as i dont think that it would be right of you to even consider denying her of the most wonderful thing she will probably experience. children are annoying, expensive and dammed hard work but they are also what make you want to get up in the morning and go to work for. remember that as a man your child is your legacy.

Hope all goes well for the two of you.

From a beautiful mother of three gorgous babes x x x

[Fox]

Unfortunatley this isnt really true to life...  Because as much as she wants them, I am equally not wanting them...

And as much as that experience would make her entirely happy it would make me miserable to the same degree...

P.s ~ Legacy does not interest me in the slightest, what makes me get up in the morning is having to go to work to make money to spend on things for myself and my girl.

So i am more or less in the same posistion as I was when I posted my dilema...   

You say that I would be denying her that pleasure?
I say she would be subjecting me to a horror....   where do we draw the line??

[michamum]

I don't know how a relationship can work if one person is so adamant about having babies and the other isn't.

You wouldn't want to 'rob' her off her dream to have babies would you?  And yet it's not fair for you to father children if you are opposed to the idea.

Personally I don't think there is any compromise which can be made, I know guys that have had kids to keep their partner happy to only have their relationship failed down the track.

Hope everything works out for you guys!

[RazoRmedia]

Play it by ear, you say you don't want kids but you also state you've only 'held one once'.

Why not babysit for a friends child to give you more of an idea of how much fun kids can give.

Relationships are all about compromise and sacrifice so maybe something has to give.

Anyway, you're young, you may still change your mind (or your girlfriend might).