When to use time-outs Generally speaking, time-outs are a last resort action in response to ‘unacceptable behaviour’, the definition of which can vary between families. For example issues like: violence towards other members of the family, dangerous play, rudeness, swearing, continual ignoring of simple polite requests or just simply when the child is out of control and cannot be reasoned with. Time-outs are also brilliant if YOU feel you are losing it too! Keeping calm and in control are probably one of the most important parenting techniques around. As responsible parents, we need to point out that time-outs should not be over-used or made too routine as they may lose their effectiveness. There may be times when it is not appropriate to use a time-out, such as if your child is only being slightly non-compliant, or if they are bored and have resorted to bad behaviour to get attention. Another scenario not to use time-outs is if your child is upset because they have a big feeling like fear or pain and what the child really needs is a big hug and a chat. 
A Note about using the Time Out Pad Children love nothing more than to receive praise and positive feedback, as grown-ups, we aren't so different If your child finds they get more attention from their parents by being naughty, then this should ring some alarm bells, as more time should be spent on praising the good things they do, rather than the bad things. Negative spirals can start when nagging leads to bad behaviour, which in turn leads to more nagging. The best way to break this negative routine is to take charge, be positive, stay calm, praise good behaviour and use diversions if possible. Buy Time Out Pad Now |